Tom Ford Shares ‘Very Hard’ Process Of Adjusting To Life After His Husband’s Death

For Tom Ford, his transformation into a widower and a single father in the latter half of 2021 led to a profound reassessment of his personal and professional life.

Journalist Richard Buckley, Ford’s husband, died in September at the age of 72. The couple, who have been married since 2014, have been in a relationship for 35 years.

In a new interview with WSJ magazine, Ford shares how his daily routine has changed in the months since Buckley’s death after a long illness. “It was hard after 35 years, it was so hard,” said the designer and director. “I’m still thinking, ‘Oh my God, I should call Richard, or I want to send him a note about it. And he’s not here.'”

As with many single parents, Ford had to take on new responsibilities as the primary caretaker for the couple’s 9-year-old son, Jack.

“Until recently, I had Richard to help me out in the morning,” he said. “It was a bit of a struggle last month because it usually happens [Jack’s] Breakfast on school days while I was getting dressed.”

“It’s a challenge to do, get him dressed, make his lunch, make his lunch, make his breakfast, get all my things done, and drive him to school at 7:45,” Ford added. “But it also means I’ll be in my office by 8:10, so I’ll be off to a good start for the day.”

Tom Ford (left) and Richard Buckley in 2014.

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In a 2016 appearance on “The Jess Cagle Interview,” Ford explained how he and Buckley met by chance in an elevator in 1986.

“We closed our eyes and within a month we were living together,” he said at the time. “By the time the elevator went down to the ground floor, I thought, ‘You’re the only one.’ That’s it. Click. Sold out. It was literal love at first sight.”

Ford is currently promoting a new book called “Tom Ford 002.” In it, he chronicles the launch of his eponymous brand and recent hubs of the Hollywood film industry as director of “A Single Man” and “Nocturnal Animals.”

And speaking of movies, Ford recently picked up a screening of “House of Gucci” and likened the experience to “living in a hurricane” in an AirMail article last week.

Was it a farce or a poignant story of greed? I would often laugh out loud, “But was I supposed to do that?”

However, Ford offered faint praise to Lady Gaga, whose performance won early accolades.

“In her often exaggerated portrayal of Patricia Gucci, her accent occasionally migrates from Milan to Moscow,” he said. “But who cares? Her performance is outstanding.”


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