Psychiatrist offers mental health tips for parents of missing children

Bexar County, Texas – With more children reported missing on the holidays, a local psychiatrist is giving advice on maintaining the mental health of parents of missing children.

Dr. said. Harry Croft.

Croft said it’s critical that parents awaiting an investigation into their children’s disappearance share their feelings.

“Whether it’s with family, friends, church, or even finding an organization that deals with lost children,” he said. “It can help in terms of having someone to listen to you. When we keep these feelings inside, they grow fearful and magnified, and we become more fearful and fearful and depressed.”

It’s also essential, Croft said, that you take care of yourself.

“What most (parents) tend to do is withdraw,” Croft said. They don’t sleep properly. They stop doing the things they used to do in life, like playing sports or watching TV. Instead, they sit in fear all the time. There is also a tendency to numb the pain, both from During drinking or drug use when that exacerbates matters.”


If a parent goes through this devastating process, Croft said, it is important for family and friends to become a strong support system.

“The truth of what is important in a situation like this is that it is not what people say, but the fact that they are there to listen,” Croft said. “A lot of people may feel like they don’t know what to say or what to do to make them feel better. Just being there will make someone feel better.”

He continued, “Saying, ‘It’ll be okay,’ doesn’t always help, and it might not be true.” “Listen and just try to understand what the person is going through and be by their side so they know they can count on you when they call you or need something.”

It’s also important to note that parents can never prepare for a tragic end, Croft said.

“It doesn’t matter how long the middle part takes. It could take hours, days, weeks, months, or even years. It seems like when the end result is tragic, you could have had all that time to prepare, but,” he said. That’s not the case.” “It’s like when you know someone who has a terminal illness, and you know they are going to die eventually. When that happens, it can be just as powerful. Time alone does not make it easier if the outcome is tragic.”


Croft said finding a support group for others to go through in a situation like this would be very helpful.

Croft also mentioned that there are long-term effects on parents’ mental health even if the outcome is not so tragic.

“If the outcome is good, often, most of the time, counseling and treatment can be really helpful,” he said. “It may not happen right away, but in the future, other feelings that are difficult to deal with may arise. At first, you think, ‘I’m glad they weren’t hurt and well.’ But then I might find myself getting really angry when I think about my child’s disappearance or A family member first.”

Croft said PTSD may become an obstacle to overcoming it.

“People may feel very anxious and suspicious of things going on around them after their loved ones return,” he said. “The best way to manage this is to seek advice.”

Bexar County Sheriff Javier Salazar said that if your child is missing, it is essential to contact law enforcement first and stay in touch.


“There is a legend that we have to wait 24 hours before we can report missing persons,” Salazar said. It’s not true. People can be missing out at any age. It’s not “Oh, he’s an adult and they can come and go as they please.” No. Also, we have an annoying trend where people create posts with their personal contact information, and scammers try Take advantage of their grief.”

“Always put the contact information for the non-emergency number of a law enforcement agency or 911,” Salazar said. “The last thing we want is for a confused mum or dad to get this call at 2 a.m. saying we have a loved one, then scamming for the money,” Salazar said. It might put him in danger.”

Most importantly, he said never give up.

“Keep fighting for your child,” Salazar said. “That’s what we do as parents. If that means calling law enforcement every day, being a thorn in their side, that’s fine because that’s what you should do.”


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