Perez Hilton has given in to the idea that some people will always see him as the one who posts regularly and says (often really means) things about Lindsay Lohan, Britney Spears, and the like.
“I have accepted, in the minds of the vast majority, that I am irreparable,” Hilton, whose real name is Mario Lavandera, told Gloria Estefan, daughter Emily Estefan, and niece Lily Estefan, on Thursday’s episode. Red Table Talk: The Estefans. “There is absolutely nothing I can do—change, grow, develop, mature—to make things right with my past. Like, not even if I donated all the money I made over the past year. If I gave it they would say, ‘Okay, that’s nice.’” He still doesn’t erase his past.” Or, “That’s cool. He’s still carrying a D bag.” Or, “What an idiot, I can’t believe he gave up all his money.” I think a lot of people view cancellation culture as a form of entertainment.”
This Facebook Watch episode examined the so-called cancel culture.
And Hilton, although he continues to have a website and 5.5 million followers on Twitter, he has some experience with it. In April 2020, fans of social media star Charli D’Amelio started a petition to ban him from TikTok, after he commented on one of the 15-year-old’s posts. (He asked if anyone else thought her post, which he deemed racy, was inappropriate.) He said it’s still banned.
Hilton also received backlash for posting a photo of Lauren Gorgoy, former member of music group Fifth Harmony, kissing a girl. In an appearance on the same Facebook Watch last week, the singer said she was “got out for the public” by Hilton, even though she “wasn’t ready” for it.
He argued that he didn’t see it that way, because the photos were already floating around – it was just another outlet he was sharing – but Emily didn’t have any. The musician, who identifies as an outsider, objected to Hilton’s assessment that “sexuality is too flexible” for young women and that they would “interact with women” even though they are not considered part of the LGBTQ+ community.
“what is wrong with you?” She said, arguing that men often dismiss same-sex relationships between women as legitimate, saying, “It’s just college” or “girls together are sexy.” As a man, Hilton reminded he couldn’t talk about a woman’s experiences.
While Hilton’s career isn’t entirely drama-free just yet, he did apologize for some of his cute actions that day. He admitted on the show that he had said harmful things in the past. But he did not use the word “strong” to describe how writing such things made him feel.
“That word, to me, never really resonated, because it means I can force people to do things, I can force people to think a certain way,” Hilton said. “I could have influenced, but I like to see it as more of an opportunity. I have the opportunity to participate, and people have the opportunity to receive.”
He repeated something he had said before, which was that he saw his unfriendly act as “turning on the light.”
“I shine a spotlight on celebrities who get it right and who get it wrong, and who behave badly,” he said.
They asked him what he had learned from his darkest moments, and he answered honestly.
“I wasn’t aware of it at the time but Perez’s entire birth and a lot of what I did and continue to do was a reaction to my childhood trauma,” he said. “Now I realize I was wielding a sword, and I just wanted to hold the sword because life was so cruel and unfair to me. But a sword can really hurt people.”