Kelly Clarkson is opening up about life and raising children after a divorce, and is looking back.
Singer, Producer & Host The Kelly Clarkson Show I recently sat on the radio host Delilah’s podcast, Loving someone with DelilahShe spoke candidly about heartache and difficult life decisions.
“I don’t regret anything,” said the singer. “Even the unfortunate things that happen in your life, or the hard things, because we can do difficult things…but also, I feel like that’s what shapes you and it’s what makes you a better person, what makes you realize, okayAnd I missed those red flags.”
In fact, she missed so many red flags in her past relationships that she joked that she almost called it her last album. Red Flag Collector. Instead, it stabilized When Christmas comesHer ninth studio album released in October.
“[Red flags] Not just for other people, but you, too. “You don’t realize things in yourself,” Clarkson, whose “horrific” divorce from estranged husband Brandon Blackstock ended in August, said Clarkson.
Although she “divorced for a minute but broke up for over a year,” Clarkson says people are obsessed with her setup. However, these days, she follows her own advice and is mindful of the red flags, and that includes herself.
“I’ve already had people like, ‘Tell me when you want to date,’ and that’s like, ‘You know what? I don’t think you have to have someone with you all the time,'” she explains. “Like, I really enjoy my work, my kids, and my creative self, which at times gets stifled. In relationships, it’s hard to be as creative as possible because I put my heart on my sleeve. … I think we’re engineered, especially where I come from.” [in Texas], to get it. And I don’t have that need.”
Despite admitting that she wants to get married again someday, Clarkson says she fights the impulse to rush into relationships. Her new attitude is: “You don’t know anything about love.”
“I’m not one of those people who poop in what was because what was is what got me here,” she explained. “I’m so happy I write and I’m so happy I have music because that’s my outlet. That’s how I get over it. That’s how I know what’s going on, and I don’t have it, I know how I would have done it.”
In addition to her creative outlet, she has her own children: daughter River Rose, 7; Remington “Remy” Alexander, 5, was granted primary custody of both children in November 2020.
“It’s so funny because they can be, and they are, the most magical little creatures, and I feel so lucky,” Clarkson said, adding that she “never wanted children, so this was a different path than I thought in my life.” Now, She cannot imagine life without her young.
“It’s very important,” she explained. “They’re so adorable and it’s a blessing and a responsibility to be able to help shape these little creatures, but at the same time, girl, they can be demons.”
The proud mother went on to say that the three most important things she wants to instill in her children are also the most important things to know in life: be kind, be loving, and be respectful.
She explained, “The important thing for me with anyone around my kids, whether they’re teachers, babysitters, people I work with, or anyone around them, I’m like, ‘Don’t let them get away with being unkind or unlovable.'” What I will not tolerate.
“You don’t have to be the smartest kid in the class. You don’t have to be the most talented. You don’t have to be all of these things, but kind and loving and respectful, that’s a deal breaker. You should have that.”
Clarkson says this is something she is working on with her children.
“I’m like, look, you have to be cute at the end of the day. And I tell them if I find out you’re doing something, like, if you’re mean to someone at school, whatever you do to that person I will definitely do to you!”
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