Raising children is a full-time job – and a handful of happy, brilliant professional women don’t want to be interviewed for this position.
“Never ask a woman about her womb,” Dr. Tasha Coleman, 45, told The Post, referring to the constant inquiries she and other childless women receive after deciding to postpone or give up motherhood altogether. do it.
“It’s very offensive when people assume that women like me chose to pursue a career over having children,” continued Coleman, an editorial media specialist and production director at Rutgers University in New Brunswick, New Jersey.
“Because even if I have a child now, I still need a thriving career in order to support the child financially,” she added.
Coleman’s sentiments echo those of Hollywood A-lister Jennifer Aniston, 52, who recently lashed out at critics for constantly questioning her choice to indefinitely delay becoming a mother.
The “Morning Show” star explained to the Hollywood Reporter as its December 8 cover girl: “I used to take it very personal — pregnancy rumors and all, ‘Oh, she chose the profession on the assumptions of the kids.'”
“It’s like, ‘You have no idea what’s going on with me personally, medically, why can’t I…Can I have children?’ They don’t know anything,” she continued, calling the decades-long scrutiny ‘painful’ and ‘bad.’
Coleman, like Aniston, argues that a woman’s value should not be tied to her decision to have children — especially now, as Americans are avoiding parenting at record rates, due to the public health and economic crises spurred by the pandemic.
In fact, a November 2021 Pew Research Center survey found that a growing percentage of American adults who aren’t already parents are unlikely to ever have children.
According to the study, 44% of non-parents ages 18 to 49 said it was “not very likely or not at all likely” that they would one day have children.
And although she’s outside the age range of the survey group, Dr. Jessica Hawke Ippolito proudly counts herself among the number of childless people who don’t want to raise children.
“Since I was a little girl, I knew I never wanted to have children,” said Hook Ippolito, 52, a high school English teacher in Franklinville, New Jersey. “I’ve always wanted to excel in my career, and without a mother’s desire to have children, I was fortunate enough to live a very free and fulfilling life on my own terms.”
The established teacher turned TikTok star has recently recorded over 6.3 million views with a satirical video in which she happily reacts to the many criticisms she is receiving for choosing not to become a mother.
“Throughout my adult life, people have said some really rude things like, ‘You’re going to change your mind about having kids when you get older,’ or ‘You’re going to regret not having kids when you’re old and alone,’ and nobody around to care about you,” Hook Ippolito explained. .
“But here I am, 52, and that hasn’t happened yet,” she laughed, noting that she had neither child fever nor any regrets about raising children. “I’m fine.”
She hopes her story, and others like it, will help remove the stigma of a child-free lifestyle.
“For a long time, women did not realize that they had a choice not to become mothers,” said the teacher, who has received letters from women in Russia, India and the Philippines praising her for promoting her right to transmit paternity.
“We have to start teaching the younger generation, girls and boys, to define your life the way you want to,” she added. “If it means having ten children, that is great. If it means no children, that is great.”